Sometimes the popularity of a Morsean blog is hurt by the fact that I live in a boring, non-exotic country. It is another matter to broadcast, say, from Guinea or there, Madagascar. Crazy popularity of the author of the blog is guaranteed.
On the other hand, if I lived in these countries, I'm not sure that I could write about something with a spear in my side and a tomahawk in my scalp. So let's be happy with what we have.
Although Germany is a close neighbor, nevertheless, some stereotypes about Germans from the time of black-and-white war films still remain. Today Germany is the country of victorious Babylon, a multicultural society of all races, customs and religions.
The concept of "German" has almost disappeared into the constant influx of immigration and flushed down the toilet after the well-fed well-being of the 80s. Let's try to break ten typical stereotypes about modern Germans:
1. German punctuality. Today it exists only in the form of bus and train schedules. Well, even unnecessary advertising is punctually thrown into mailboxes on Wednesday, despite all the calls not to do this. Everything!
There is no punctuality on a personal level. On a professional level, almost none. By the nature of my service, I often arrange meetings with clients. These people... the only meeting they'll be on time for will be their own funeral. They simply won't have any other choice.
They need all these organizers, reminders, alarm clocks just as the citizens of the Vatican need an intimate dating site.
2. German appearance. Describe the typical appearance of a German. Yeah, tall, necessarily red-haired fellow, with the muzzle of the governor of California. He sits on an armored car, squeezing a Schmeisser in his hairy hands, a harmonica with "mein lieben Augustin" is clamped in a square jaw.
These are stereotypes. As you rise from Baltic Sea on the Alpine mountains, the appearance of a German changes stronger than the dialect German language. In the north, this is still a really tall blond with a manly face. Scandinavian influence is felt.
In the south, it is already a small-grown blackberry with Italian amber. And on average in Germany, this is already almost a mulatto, with a Greek nose, Turkish mustaches, Arabic eyes and Slavic fumes.
3. The barbaric sound of the German language. Many people think that in German you can either swear or moan in the voice of Gina Wilde. In fact, such a feeling develops only among those who do not speak this language.
Believe me, our allegedly melodious Russian language in the ears of a foreigner sounds just like a barbaric growl. In my opinion, German is quite melodic and the right mouth can even sing in it:
In general, the German now almost does not swear. Just call a lawyer or an insurance agent.
4. German engineers as a sign of quality. The years when the Germans were considered an engineering nation are gone forever. What can we talk about if, according to the results of the unified European testing, a German student in terms of the level of education occupies strictly the last places in the EU.
Universities are still more or less spitting out good specialists, but soon this flow will dry up. They are trying to sluggishly reorganize the school curriculum and teaching methods. But for now, political interests in Afghanistan are more important.
5. German indifference to neighbors and strangers . There is an opinion that the Germans are very cold in neighborly relations. Indifferent to other people's problems. Myth! How many examples of mutual assistance have you seen. For example, about two years ago, at the Berlin railway station, one apezdal in a suit, with a bouquet of flowers, suddenly decided to play Anna Karenina and threw himself under the wheels of an approaching train. At that very moment, five or six men rushed after him from the platform and, risking their lives, managed to pull the idiot out from under the wheels. I'm not sure I could have made the same decision if I was standing nearby.
Or take, for example, the first day of my arrival in Germany. We were dropped off in a refugee camp and, dropping our trunks, we immediately went in search of a telephone in order to inform relatives in our former homeland about a safe arrival. But the road to the phone was blocked by a luxurious Mercedes, from which a middle-aged German couple with bats got out of the Solntsevo group with offers of help. Now imagine if you would let three unshaven Tajiks into your brand new Mercedes? (and after a day on the road, the vidos was no better). Not? But the Germans drove us around the area for at least an hour, and, not finding a public telephone, kindly offered their mobile (!) To call Ukraine. And no one then sold us to organs.
Or my neighbors. Twice a year they organize a giant picnic for the whole house with a tent and kebabs. Gather, have fun, communicate. And who never comes, ignoring invitations? Of course we are "Russians".
6. German ordnung on the streets. Unfortunately, with the arrival of all the trash from disadvantaged countries, the ordnung was greatly shaken. In some cities, real ghettos have grown up, like Berlin's Kreuzberg or Hamburg's Bilsted, where the legislature and executive body is a Turkish organized crime group. In broad daylight, young people are already swearing at the police, schoolchildren are shooting teachers and classmates, and the same Berlin and Hamburg on May 1 traditionally return to the mid-forties of the last century.
No, you don't have to write a will every time you go shopping, but sometimes the hairs on your ass stand on end at the news.
7. The stiffness, boredom, greed and stupidity of the Germans. Zadornov loves to make fun of the lack of a sense of humor among Americans and other bourgeois, including Germans. Pure populism. The Germans sincerely love to neigh, devour, revel. They are interesting in intimate conversations. Many of our girls admit that the Germans can court gallantly. The Germans are world champions in travel. In every crashed plane or crashed train around the world, there will be a German. You will meet Deutsch not only in all-inclusive Egypt, they climb in droves to rest in the hottest spots of the planet. They are still adventurers. And an adventurer a priori cannot be boring. What do you think?
8. Germans live to work. The industriousness of the Germans is a myth. Of course, in local traditions there is no favorite occupation for Russians at work - it is worthy to end every half an hour with collective bullshit for life with coffee and buns. But at the World Championships in throwing responsibility and throwing work at a colleague, the Germans will definitely not be outsiders. And with vacations of 25-30 calendar days a year, they definitely won’t work to death.
9. Germans are ashamed of Hitler. Bullshit! The modern German is not ashamed. They simply do not ASSOCIATE themselves with those people who once applauded the ideas of the Third Reich. The general opinion about Hitler of the people I interviewed is something like this: "Hitler rallied the nation, but the couple there were too smart with the Jews." True, they generally try not to talk about Jews. Just in case.
10. Tolerance of Germans towards other peoples. And here I have already said everything here in this
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I have been married too long and "very" so I have no personal experience with German men. But my free friend met a German recently. She was walking with her children in the park, and there a handsome man approached them. At first everything was fine: he played football with her children, joked a lot, laughed. And he invited them to a joint walk in the park in a week. In the park, a man bought ice cream for his children, beer for his girlfriend and himself. Everyone had a great time, the adults exchanged phone numbers in the hope of continuing to get to know each other. But after a couple of days of correspondence with a new acquaintance, my friend realized that this was not the hero of her novel at all, and tried to gently say goodbye, thanking her for a pleasant walk. It wasn't there! First, this boyfriend shook her nerves well in the messenger, and then completely ... asked her to return the money spent on her and the children in the park! (Let me remind you: 2 ice creams and beer.) And it was not a joke. The story impressed me. And I decided to ask my friends who have been happily married to Germans for a long time.
I asked everyone the same questions. The answers, I confess, turned out to be quite unexpected.
Myth #1: All Germans are misers
Katya, married to a German for 2.5 years:“It’s not true, but they are economic and take money seriously. My husband will never throw money around and make some stupid impulsive purchases. Before meeting me, he could be called an extremely economical person: he wore shoes and clothes to holes, from cosmetics he had one shampoo, which was for both shaving foam and shower gel. He also ate very austerely. I began to actively fight this, and now he is more comfortable spending money on himself, although he still has good cosmetics and expensive ones. accessories are usually given to him by me. But his past has provided us with huge advantages: we bought an apartment, we have no debts. We live a good, well-fed life. My husband invests a lot in the house (repair, furniture), civic and politically conscious, and it is completely natural for us to buy products in a bio-supermarket (although this is 1.5-2 times more expensive than usual), pay a little more for green electricity, have a green bank account, etc. e. These are smart spending.
Sometimes, of course, I would like him to take money easier, because sometimes you want a spontaneous holiday. I think we balance each other in this regard."
Lena, married to a German for 4 years:“Firstly, such qualities as stinginess and hoarding do not depend on nationality. Secondly, do not confuse stinginess with practicality. And, in fact, what's wrong with the fact that the average German competently and in advance plans his expenses and does not buy too much? In addition, Germany is now overwhelmed by a wave of reasonable (environmentally friendly) consumption: buying products without plastic packaging, instead of a car - a bicycle, clothes - only those that will really be worn. I would say that the Germans live by the principle of reasonable economy: do not pay where you can not pay. A German man will not splurge and bribe with expensive gifts (and, by the way, having received an expensive gift, he will most likely feel awkward). Considering that people here enter into a serious relationship at a fairly adult age, the boyfriend will conquer his chosen one with others: experience, care, intelligence, and not money.
Myth number 2: Germans do not know how to care, do not give bouquets and sweets
Katia: “My husband can still give a bouquet of flowers for no reason, and at the beginning of the relationship, he generally paid for everything. But the main charm of his courtship was far from being in the financial side: he immediately showed himself to be a very attentive person. When we first started dating, I had a cold, lived in a hostel, and I did not have a warm blanket - he immediately brought me one. Once, on March 8, he arranged a real quest for me: he placed clues about the place of our date, where he met me with a gorgeous bouquet of flowers and a visit to my favorite restaurant. I got an engagement ring with big diamond author's work.
Once I had a short period of difficult psychological state, and then he himself recorded a funny song for me, prepared a bunch of pleasant surprises to make me feel better. He is very attentive to the choice of gifts for me, there has never been a situation for him to buy something in last moment- I start preparing gifts for a couple of months. We don’t have the standard patriarchal-gender nonsense in our relationship, and my husband buys me gifts not because he is “a man, therefore he must,” but because he sincerely wants to please me.”
Lena: “And here German practicality again turns on, coupled with gender equality: why do for a woman what she is able to do herself? I remember how confused my German father-in-law was at first, when at the common table I, like a decent Russian girl, was waiting for a man to pour wine into an empty glass for me. "I don't get it," he shrugged. - The bottle is standing next to you, just stretch out your hand! In addition, you yourself know better how much to pour. The same with the door. If this is not a massive cast-iron door of the author's forging of the late 18th century, 4 meters high and half a meter thick, then in the understanding of a German man, a woman is able to open it herself. Although just yesterday, when my husband and I were returning from the store with full bags (anticipating the comments, I’ll immediately clarify that his bags were heavier and larger than mine), one German man, seeing that our hands were busy, deliberately stopped to hold the supermarket door for us. In general, since I have recently become the happy owner of a Berlin cafe, I can state with all responsibility: German men open the doors to their women, and give a hand, and help put on a coat. But with flowers - yes, a snag. And I even know why. There are so many flower shops in Germany and the prices for bouquets are so affordable that going home from work and not buying tulips, roses or chrysanthemums is actually a crime! Flowers are an essential attribute of German life, like, for example, a rug with the inscription “Herzlich Willkommen” (Welcome!) in the entrance, a Christmas wreath at the door, photo frames on the wall or checkered curtains in the kitchen. So we return to the point about practicality again: why buy a second bouquet if one is already standing? Although personally I am ready to forgive this to German men only because they almost always - regardless of age and years spent together - gently hold their women by the hand, and also do not hesitate to hug and kiss them in public and affectionately address their companions “Schatz "("treasure" - ed..)».
Myth No. 3: Germans do not require daily cooking and perfect cleanliness of the house from a woman.
Katia: “I came into this relationship with my own set of (rather backward) ideas about gender roles. That is, it was me, and not him, who thought that you need to be a “hostess”. But it quickly became clear that all this stereotypical nonsense does not work. My husband cooks well, cleans well (plus he performs all the standard set of traditionally “male” functions, such as assembling furniture and minor repairs), and he does not need a cook and a housekeeper. I cook by inspiration when I have time and desire. At the same time, it practically turns out that I do more household chores: my husband works full time, and I work from home, so I have more time physically and the opportunity to cook and keep order. Perfect cleanliness and borscht pies are not a significant value for my husband. If it seems to him that the apartment is dirty, he will clean himself. He likes to take care of the house and clean up when he has time.”
Lena: "This is true. For Germans, eating is an important ritual. Of course, not to the same extent as, for example, for Italians or French, but they cook here in houses only according to special occasion. And then none of our “table was bursting with dishes”! Everything is on a clear menu and with a clear number of servings. In everyday life, most Germans prefer to either have a snack in a cafe, or order something at home, or buy food. fast food from the nearest supermarket. Therefore, when our girls, brought up on the old saying “The way to a man’s heart lies through the stomach,” spend several hours at the stove to surprise their beloved with aspic, borscht and herring under a fur coat, then he, of course, will be flattered and touched. But next time, most likely, he will say something like: “Darling, let's better spend this time walking in the park, and then we will go to an Indian restaurant around the corner.” Well, and, probably, I will completely surprise you if I say that at home I do not know the way to the kitchen. In our Russian-German family, only a German husband cooks.”
Myth number 4: love is love, but money is apart
Katia: “We pay for ourselves equally everywhere. Exceptions are festive occasions (we celebrate the date of our wedding every month), then the husband pays for me in a restaurant, and I, for example, leave it for a tip. I am absolutely comfortable having a separate budget. So I do not depend on my husband, do not lose my working skills, I have the motivation to work and develop in a foreign country. Plus, psychologically, this gives a feeling of equal voting rights in resolving controversial issues and, of course, freedom and independence. And I don’t think that a husband should pay for me simply because he is a man: although he has a higher salary, he will spend the difference not on himself, but on something that is significant for both of us, for example, an upgrade at home. I think if I had a patriarchal husband who would pay for everything, it would be very unpleasant, I would feel obliged to him and could not behave the way I like, but would be forced to adapt to him.
Tanya, married to a German for 8 years:“When we decided to live together, he offered to divide the budget so that one pays for the apartment, the other for food. It turned out that this was a test of how “correctly”, from his point of view, I manage money. A month later, when I once again needed to go to the store, he simply gave me his wallet. Since then, we have one account.
Lena: Often true. The most illustrative example of this is a scene from a report that was recently shown on German television. In it, a German bachelor for about 40 years was looking for a bride in Russia. After the third date with him in a restaurant, the lady of the heart nevertheless refused the overseas groom. And it wasn't even the rejection that angered him the most. “I could have said everything on the first evening, I wouldn’t have to spend money on two more dinners!” the annoyed boyfriend exclaimed right into the camera. Why is there a TV, among my friends there is a married couple who have been together for 15 years, but they have a separate budget: bills in restaurants, and rent, and vacation - all in half. They dearly love each other, they will soon have a child, but financial independence and equality for them is the key to a strong relationship. Although many of our common German friends look askance at this couple, the family budget in Germany is usually shared. But if things have not yet come to a joint life, everyone pays for himself. It's more reliable that way."
Men in Germany (as elsewhere in the world) are very different. I have a German friend who is more like an exaggerated version of the Russian - he likes to drink, go on a spree, emotional, impulsive, open ... he communicates with similar people and ... they are all native Germans. But this is more the exception than the rule.
Those who are already married to Germans and disagree with something - I fully admit, because we all have our own opinion and our own experience.
Let's start...
1. Diligence
Taking a break from work is not in the rules of the German. All the necessary things will be done in good faith as soon as possible, you can go home only after your conscience is clear.The qualities inherent in some Russian men, I noticed only in East Germany. And so, the men here not only help with cleaning, but also cook. They will not pass by something dirty - they will clean it. They won't budge. They iron the shirts themselves or take them to the laundry. Do not wrinkle the nose when necessary to wash the dishes.
2. Economy and predictability
What others consider greed, I call frugality. Girls, having been in Germany for at least six months, understand what's what. In Germany, people give half their salary to the state, their budget is clearly planned! Yes, the Germans are not inclined to overwhelm girls with gifts that they cannot afford to impress them. No one will fluff their tail in front of their friends and throw dust in their eyes. It's just not in the German character. And if this happens, then either the girl needs to be wary, and she is dealing with a spender, or she is lucky and she has found a rich man who does not need to think about money. But even without signs of attention will not do. They will just be more restrained, maybe less romantic, but more practical. And in the future it will be a stable man who, after the wedding, will do the same as before, which is important.
In general, German couples are built on the principle of solidarity with each other. Everything is done together. From cleaning to paying bills.
3. Respect for a woman as a person
A man in Germany respects a woman's right to her life. Your job, your career, your budget and self-realization. And usually it's both. Women who do not demonstrate a desire to develop often remain misunderstood by society. Men here also take maternity leave so that women can return to work as soon as possible. Both partners in Germany work equally well, and this is considered happiness, while "sitting at home" is a thankless task.It often happens that women earn more in families than men. It happens that in such cases a man works only partially to take care of children. Well, or just pays more taxes, and a woman - less. Such decisions are made solely for the mutual good and the good of the family. Women who are dependent on men, sitting at home, you rarely meet here. Well, only if with 4-5 children.
4. Emotion control and smart decision making
After living in Germany for several years, I came to the conclusion that the Germans are very thoughtful and reserved. They do not like quarrels and screams, they do not tolerate scandals.Often a German man makes a decision about a wedding simply on the basis of a cold calculation - "we have been together for 635 days, we have been living together for 467, so it's time for us to get married, and quite rationally" (a little exaggerated, but very similar to the truth).
Few people in this country are overwhelmed with feelings and emotions so much as to "throw themselves into the pool with their heads." Everyone here purposefully thinks about his life and makes a decision based on an analysis of the situation. Sometimes, however, men only need to choose “yes” or “no” for marriage, because in Germany it’s not only not new, but almost the norm when a girl proposes. That's it.
5. Taking care of your health and appearance
running, fitness, proper nutrition, smoking cessation, bio-products... german men trying to live right and healthy life. They also take care of their appearance. They use cosmetics for face and body care, monitor their haircut, the condition and ironing of clothes. The average German man can hardly be called a fashionista, but he knows how to present himself. All this, combined with their natural data (there are sad exceptions), makes Russian girls groan and gasp when they arrive in Germany. Yes, many men here are beautiful and, moreover, they are not spoiled by crowds of beauties, like ours.
6. Honesty and integrity
Okay, I will not speak for everyone, especially when it comes to honesty in a relationship. But what I see is absolute and uncontrollable honesty. In my other post, I called it something like "stupid obedience to the rules", but here I will be more supportive ... Did you do something? Confessed. Did you see the violation? Report to the authorities. Forgot to do something? Just say it and don't make excuses. Are you late? Warn in advance. Do the rules require anything? Do It. The wife asked what she looked like? Tell me the truth:)Do not be surprised - my husband sometimes behaves as if the German authorities are watching him around the clock - a ticket is bought even if it is just one unfortunate stop, the garbage is sorted flawlessly, and if something was forgotten at the checkout, he returns and pays extra.
I think if he acts dishonestly somewhere, his conscience will bite him to death. This kind of honesty disarms me. Sometimes it infuriates, of course, but in essence - I don’t see anything wrong with that. Except that few Germans can be as crazy as we are. This is often not enough.
But on the other hand, thanks to the German sense of duty, the ability to answer for their words, sincerity, reliability and decency, they give their life partner this indescribable feeling of confidence in a partner and in the future, so warming a woman's heart.
7. Punctuality
Well, this is already a vague topic. Although I believe that I am more punctual than my husband. For him, 10 minutes is not late, and I can’t even be 5 minutes late - it’s better to come earlier. But he is rather an exception. The rest of the German men I know are punctual as hell. And they are very indignant when someone is late. Even if it's a girl. Or a train - if passengers are informed that the train will arrive a little later for such and such a reason, then curses and heated discussions of such "disgusting" and "swindle" are carried through the cars. For me personally, this is another reason to laugh at the Germans. 8. Thirst for knowledge
For a man in Germany, it is very important not to stop developing, to discuss, read, be interested, share ... it attracts, makes you develop together and generally keeps you in good shape. Very pleasant quality.9. Find happiness in small things
The same applies, however, to German women. There is no our national "more, even more" and "but he has it better." Since the bulk of the population belongs to the middle class, the majority live relaxed, not looking back at their neighbor, soberly aware of their capabilities and needs, trying to appreciate what you have and enjoy every pleasant little thing. There is something childish about it. It attracts me very much and touches me in local men.10. Moderation
Buying only what you need, eating without filling your stomach, drinking without getting drunk, setting realistic goals and giving modest gifts - all this is typical of German men. Emotions - within acceptable limits. A violent expression of feelings is almost impossible. The impulsive component is present in the character of people very rarely. But in combination with the previous quality, I do not find this point negative. And it's also contagious - you should see how I now buy groceries and go shopping. Just miss self-control and self-control!Encountering numerous articles and essays on the web on the topic “Russian women - what are they?”, “A typical image of a French woman” or “Polynesian women and their views on motherhood”, I suddenly thought: why are there so few articles about men of one nationality or another?
Maybe there are actually a lot of them, they just didn’t come across to me? And where can you read about them? At Mens Health? So the idea arose to chat a little about German men, to introduce you to them and to look at them with a more biased look.
You should probably start with what a typical representative of Germany looks like. German men are usually tall, lean, long-legged, often fair-haired. Facial features are sharp. Bad character. Not married (s)
Joke…
Since it is just as difficult to find a typical German in Germany as in Moscow - a native inhabitant, at least in the second generation, then, of course, the range of external data of a German is actually very wide. There are short ones, there are redheads, and there are fat ones.
Let's move on to the peculiarities of the national character, there is something to profit from. Here are a few features of a typical Hellmuth or Günther.
Helmut - sentimental and romantic
I think much more than Russian men. Coming to the supermarket for shopping, he can easily grab a couple of bouquets of tulips, and not to give them to his wife on March 8, or, I’m not afraid of this word, Rosa Luxembourg, but just like that, to raise his own mood.
In Helmut's apartment, who lives alone, melted candles, vases of flowers, and cute pillows on the sofa are very common. They did not get to him by inheritance from the former, and were not even brought with them by one of the contenders for his heart and hand. He bought them himself (of course, at a sale, because saving is our everything), solely to create comfort in his own apartment.
Oh yes, saving is very important for a German man.
Hellmuth is very economical
And this is not stinginess - this is a principle: everything should be worth its money.
Let us cite a case as an illustration: there are no long queues in the supermarket next to our house, but here we had to stand: the cashier punched tomatoes at 2.99 euros per kg for one man, not seeing that there was a discount on them that day, and they cost 1.55 euros! The man, zealously checking the check after the purchase, caught the cashier. There was no scandal, but the rights had to be restored, so the check was interrupted, the cash desk was reloaded, the queue patiently and understandingly waited, because the German queue understands what justice is. It lasted about 10 minutes.
Of course, you are now eagerly awaiting news from us - did the German man receive his reclaimed 1.44 euros? We hasten to assure you: received! And, satisfied, he went home!
Because ordnung, i.e. order has been restored. And Hellmuth loves order most of all.
If, wanting to meet you in a restaurant or cafe, Helmut says: “I invite you” - you are lucky, he will pay for you! And you can safely order truffles in champagne (just don't get too carried away with champagne and behave yourself, he doesn't like surprises in public places).
If he did not announce that he was inviting you, then be prepared to split the bill. Perhaps, of course, he believes that paying for a woman is a matter of course, this also happens. But still, be prepared - just in case.
Helmut - esthete
Usually his shoes are always polished, his shirt is ironed, as well as a neat haircut and very well-groomed hands. Many uncles go for manicures and pedicures, and at the same time they prefer women. A German man loves red wine in a beautiful glass, impressionist paintings and expensive watches and cars. And also, after 45 years, many of them have an irresistible desire ... to play the piano. Someone else, but I know this better than anyone. About 30% of my students are men. And, no matter how much they want to flatter themselves, experience has shown that they really want to ... play the piano. And nothing more.
Hellmuth loves football
He was already born with a ball in his hands. Or with a mug of beer, with which he will rap in ecstasy on the bar table, where he will watch the next match of the national league. During the broadcast of the World Cup, not a single live bird is found on the streets of Germany, not to mention a living man. All male children are enrolled in the football section.
You don't like football and yet you are a man and live in Germany? So you are not German.
Helmut can speak competently and well, regardless of his social status and education
I noted this for myself a long time ago, when life circumstances was forced for a long time to use the services of one taxi company, the owner of which was a German, who himself willingly sits at the steering wheel, and also maintains a staff of ten taxi drivers, whom he basically took from compatriots.
I have to admit, bowing my head, that such Hoch Deutsch, (high German, the officially accepted polite form of the German language spoken by television announcers), I did not even hear from Angela Merkel. From the speech turns of taxi drivers, I just went crazy, feeling like a loader of the Promzona store, who had recently come out of a three-week binge ... Taxi drivers bent such phrases that a Harvard professor would have covered with red spots from the realization of his illiteracy.
Helmut loves to cook
There is even such family entertainment: cooking together. I first heard about this from one of the cutest German couples, who, in response to my question: “How did you spend your weekend?” - proudly answered: "We - cooked!"
Poor, I thought... Well, it was necessary to kill like that on the weekend... Well, how many guests were they waiting for? Why was it impossible to put aside this fundamental savings once and go to a restaurant, since the income of this family clearly allowed them to have all the best? But no, then I just didn’t know yet that cooking together is the same pleasure for the Germans as going to the cinema or theater together.
They plan it for a long time: they go to the store together, buy everything they need, and then on their free day they start a miracle - they cook, say, asparagus consommé.
It looks something like this: while drinking wine, they put something into the pan, from which this consommé then comes out:
“Günther,” the lady says conspiratorially and even somewhat intimately, “wouldn’t you pass me some salt to salt the consommé?”
“Of course, dear,” Gunther says in Hoch Deutsch, and brings salt, as well as thyme leaves.
- Honey, why did Herr ... Gunther you brought me thyme? - starting to wind up, the quarrelsome Greta mutters, - when I asked you to bring only salt with normal German Hoch Deutsch?
And a fight breaks out. The saucepan with the consommé lands right on Gunther's head, the thyme is less fortunate - it has not yet been thrust into such distant places even in Belonika's recipes ...
No, no, that doesn't really happen.
The German couple cooks harmoniously and quickly, it turns out very tasty, and then they eat it all together, smacking their lips and drinking some Moselle harvest of 2003.
Special mention deserves the popular German pop songs that are played daily on all radio stations. They can add zest to the portrait of a German man.
One day I heard a song on the radio. How amusing, I thought, listening to the text! What a fun idea to set the instructions for use to music washing machine!
Then, listening, I realized that I got excited. There was a song from the top chat in Germany, a song about great love.
Attached is the translation:
"Could you fix me,
so that I can function better?
'Cause if you don't fix me
I can't function anymore!"
This song is about the love of a German man, it is also sung by a man, by the way.
You're not tired?
Then I'll sing you another very popular song here. It plays on the radio about three times a day.
"I can't find a woman
I'm still searching, I'm looking for a 100% hit.
But I'm always missing something
and I ask myself:
when will it be not 99%, but 100?
When everything exactly matches and no adjustment is needed?
When I say to myself: this is definitely absolutely 100% suitable for me?
This song is also sung by a man, and it is after the phrase about “100 percent” that he jumps up pathetically and takes a very high note. Worries, apparently, in earnest. How not to worry if his debit and credit do not converge, even if you crack!
I hope you have a rather positive picture, and you urgently want to meet some German man. But I must warn you: do not flatter yourself!
Among the local men there are also illiterate, unclear mind Golden clients of McDonald's, beer lovers in the morning, which somehow does not add positive lines to their resumes and even Hoch Deutsch does not save; there are men who are not men at all and want to get married themselves, there are especially many of them in Cologne, the city recognized as the "capital of the" sexual minorities of the Land of Nord Rhine Westphalia ", there are also carriers of many other shortcomings.
But why should we talk about insufficient men? We must look for the positive in everything, so they have no place in our story. We are for beauty and positive emotions in everything!
Therefore, here are some photos of real handsome German men in the end.
And (get your husbands away from the screens!) My wish to you: let them dream about you today. For variety.
May Brad Pitt sleep peacefully for at least one night!
Sweet Dreams!
Summarized information obtained as a result of observations and conclusions of women who came to Germany from abroad - the heroines of short novels, as well as those who are in long-term relationships and married to Germans. Pretty subjective, but still...
Heine and Schiller, Beethoven and Liszt, Mendelssohn and Friedrich - these major representatives of German romanticism in poetry, philosophy, music and fine arts had a significant impact on their descendants. What does it really feel like to date a modern German?
– A German will most likely never flirt with you like an Italian. And will not be so frankly romantic courtship, like a Frenchman. Romance in Germany is more subtle, and appears gradually. At 20, I would have thought that dating a German was boring. At the age of 30, it became interesting, - says an American who met with a German for nine and a half years.
Call me! - I'll call...
“If a German says he will call, he calls – even the next day,” the American continues. The Germans have rules for almost everything. Be careful, he may do this not necessarily because he likes you, but because he promised. He may just dial your number to let you know that he doesn't like you and doesn't want to see you again. But he said he would call, so he would call. This has happened to dozens of my friends.
Accuracy and honesty
Those who use the rather dubious rule “If she loves, she will wait” in life should be prepared for the fact that this romantic formula may not work in Germany.
- If you arrange to meet at a restaurant at 20:00, he will most likely not keep you waiting, and will be there at 19:59. On the other hand, he expects the same from you. So it pays to arrive on time. If he says that he will be there, you don’t have to explain to the waiter that the date is only an hour late,” says the lady, who at one time suffered from her Russian habit of defiantly being late anywhere.
– If a German says “I love you”, he most likely means it. When he says he sees a future with you, that means he is. On the other hand, if things are not going in the right direction, he will also clearly explain the reason for the breakup. He'll tell you why he doesn't like you, or why things don't work out. He can also honestly say whether he likes, for example, your gift. This is one of the most difficult lessons that I had to learn in Germany, - admits a woman who found her family happiness in Germany.
Planning
Most Germans love to travel and have enough days off for that. It is possible that he will want to include you in these travel plans. He might even plan a trip like my partner did, or ask you to do something based on common interests. It makes no sense to wait for a call on Thursday to receive an invitation to spend a joint Friday evening. Most German men never notify a woman of a date one day in advance. This happens at least a few days in advance, because your life is supposed to be as planned as his, says a former Estonian who met her future husband in one of the so-called hobby groups.
Vacation fee
A Ukrainian woman who met her German partner during a vacation broke up with him because of his extreme frugality: “A German can expect you to pay your share of the vacation. In addition, he is probably saving the accumulated money for your joint future. Or a future with someone else, depending on the circumstances. The Germans generally like to save money.
Someone prefers the practical side to romance: “If you live in Germany, he will help you navigate the German bureaucracy. Doesn't sound very romantic. But any expat who has tried to get a work/marriage visa, insurance, or filing a tax return knows how difficult it can be. You will be eternally grateful for all the countless phone calls and visits to Ausländerbehörde, the office for foreigners, that he will make on your behalf.”
Care and attention
Many expat women find German men cold. The Germans, on the other hand, prefer to consider themselves reserved.
– Once you get to know him better, you will see his warm and funny side. Yes, Germans can be funny. He doesn't show it to anyone, so consider yourself special if he shows it to you. German men need time. For example, one day my partner came home for lunch for the first time in 12 years because he was bored and thought that I might be lonely,” recalls one lady from Kharkov.
Another emigrant speaks in defense of German tenderness:
- When I had knee surgery, he spent 14 hours in the hospital. He took me to castles every weekend when I moved to Germany and didn't have any friends yet. I moved to Munich, because I thought that it would be easier for me to get settled there. German men will show you that they care about you in every way. You just have to be quite open and patient.
German men and romance: everything you need to know updated: September 15, 2019 by: Marco Bayanov
