Just a couple of centuries ago, secular ladies and gentlemen exchanged love letters through proxies. But in the age of the Internet, everything has changed. It has become both easier and more difficult.

Is there friendship between a guy and a girl? Some believe that such relationships will sooner or later develop into something more, while others are sure that gender differences cannot become an obstacle to true friendship. In fact, both points of view are valid, and we will tell you why! More interesting articles on the Girls website!

On the one hand, social networks make it easy for us to find a friend even on the other side of the world. And on the other hand, since everything is so simple, then another girl can write to the guy who you have liked for a long time right now. So it's time to take action! Do you still doubt and do not know how to start communication? In this article, you will find some actionable tips.

Take the initiative

Do you think guys only like shy, silent girls? But no! Many people like it when girls take the initiative and give them signs of attention. Just let's do without the banal “Hi! How are you?" For example, you can start your letter by honestly admitting that you have never written to a guy first, and ask him how he feels about it. Or ask such a strange question that he simply cannot ignore it.

Look for common interests

Check out his page social network- there you can find the sea useful information(even if it is partially closed from prying eyes). Photos, videos and music and communities in which he is a member will tell about his interests. Look, maybe there is something on this list that is interesting to you. And then write to him that you are also interested in this or send a link to a new video of his favorite group or to an interview with your favorite actor (dig around on the Internet). If you do not have common interests and you are not at all interested in what he is interested in, think about whether it is worth starting a conversation? Most likely, you will have nothing to talk about.

find an excuse

Try to start a conversation as if you are writing not for the sake of flirting, but to find out important information for you. And only then, if communication starts, you can smoothly move on to other topics.

Master the epistolary genre

By the way, you can write him a real letter or note in the old fashioned way. No wonder we are taught to write essays, right? best occasion- any holiday. But it is best, of course, to send a "valentine". And you can not wait for the holiday. Throw a note in your briefcase or ask a friend to pass it on.

If he didn't answer

So, you decided to take one of our tips and just want to be honest: “I've been wanting to talk to you for a very long time. What do you say?". What happens if he doesn't answer? Yes, it's annoying. Yes it's sad. And very, very embarrassing. But you will not waste time and torture yourself in vain. So, you will find such a guy who will have the time and desire to communicate with you, no matter where your correspondence begins.

What advice did you like the most? Or maybe you have your own tricks, share with other girls?

You sit on Vkontakte, on Odnoklassniki, in My World .... You attack all social networks because you want him to notice you…. You have him in your Friends, but you are shy, embarrassed and afraid of something. You want to write to him, but your hand is trembling and your thoughts are confused .... You don't know what to write... Do you want to interest him, do you dream of being liked by this “miracle” guy?

1. Be the initiator! Write to him first. Write without fear of banality. Even your simple word "hello" can surprise him. Try to surprise. And then, if a dialogue starts, continue to surprise him as your heart tells you.
2. Write something in poetry form. It doesn't have to be a declaration of love. It can be anything…. A verse that begins with a greeting, with an interest in something….
3. Start joking! But in the event that you know what kind of humor he understands. Try even to adapt to it in order to pass the most difficult of the stages. A sense of humor is your weapon.
4. Leave something on his walls that he will be pleased to read. You can “dig into” his Interests on the pages, learn something new…. And then put it into practice. Apply to surprise him again.
5. A guy will like you if you comment on all his photos on the pages. But not fanatical! He may just "star" or think that you are crazy about him. This should never be shown!
6. Write that you would like to go somewhere with him. But bring him to this smoothly, and not spontaneously. Let there be dialogue before your proposal. Develop it yourself, and do not wait until it "breaks" during pauses. Pauses in communication should not be allowed!
7. Don't impose too much. Write something that he would be interested in reading. Do not complain about life, do not inspire pessimism and bad mood. It's not the coolest way to please a guy you're crazy about. You can write about the weather, but it's interesting. You can write about purchases, but not intrusively ....
8. Write SMS! Do it at the same time, for example, with sending a message to social networks. He will be delighted and amazed. But do not write so constantly, so as not to turn into everyday life what you put all your efforts into.
9. Avoid verbal things like this: "Damn, I'm really bored", "I'm bored, there's nothing to do." A guy might think that you are lazy or not interested in anything. These thoughts will only push him away from you. And then getting it all back will be harder than you think.
10. Write what excites you, but in a softer form, in a more "readable" way. That is, you do not need to write "whining". The guy doesn't need it. Better quote some famous people, or remember the lines from the songs, inserting them into your messages.

Incredible frankness

If you just want to sleep with a guy, write to him. Guys rarely refuse sex. And you don't have to be afraid of his reaction. If you just hint, he can simply take you for a girl of “easy” behavior. Although, probably, you will not interest a guy for the sake of a bed.

If you don’t need anything from him other than communication, study his interests carefully. Well, for example, he likes football. Read a lot about football and write to the guy that you are a football fan. The conversation will start by itself. He will like you! Don `t doubt!

If you are embarrassed to write first - examples and phrases are:

1. Get over yourself and stop being shy. Your shyness will definitely not attract him in any way. And do you know why? Because shy girls achieve little in life. Shyness is felt as strongly (even at a distance) as well as complexes.
2. Wait for him to write to you himself. But you keep in mind that you will have to wait a very long time. The worst thing is that you can not wait. And then you will be angry with yourself, only anger will not help.
3. Get this guy out of your head. And you will solve many different problems at once. You will not need to worry, think about how and what to write. A cruel way, but there are some.
4. Ask your girlfriend to write to him yours (on your behalf). But make sure you don't write too much. And then you will blame your girlfriend if she writes everything in her own way.

As it happens in life...

My friend, whom I have known for nine years, fell in love with one of our common acquaintances. I fell in love so much that I could not live without him even a second. They talked and saw each other, but Alena (my friend) was afraid to confess everything to him.

She suffered for a long time. A very long time. Then, with her first paycheck, she bought herself a laptop. Spent the Internet. Added Artem (the guy she really liked and so on) in all social networks in Friends…. At first, I was very happy about this event. But then, when I realized that I didn’t know where to start the conversation…. She just got depressed.

One evening, after work, she called me and asked me to come in for coffee. I dropped everything I was doing and went to her. She lived (and lives now) very close to me, so I was with her already ten minutes after the call. Already standing on the threshold, I realized that everything was very difficult for her: Alena was crying. We went to her room.

I offered her a handkerchief. She wiped away her tears and calmed down a bit. And she began to tell me everything in order, albeit with a tremor in her voice. Poor thing, how I understood her then! I listened to her carefully and said that I could help. I sat down at her laptop, went to the Vkontakte page, found Artem .... I smiled enigmatically at Alenka. She understood what my smile means. I typed a banal "hello" and began to correspond with Artem. The correspondence went on for about an hour. After that, I made an appointment with him and told my friend to go on a date, because he agreed. How much joy!

I helped her make up. We chose clothes together. Alena looked better than a doll. I admired her so much!

We got into the car, and I drove her to the cafeteria near which the "long-awaited" was to take place. How Alyonochka thanked me! But what was more important to me was not gratitude, but the fact that I pushed her to a dream.

By the way! They are together now. And in a year and a half they will get married. I am very happy that I helped make the dream a reality.

Tell your friends

And in our article we will tell you what you can and what you should not write. young man.

What to write to a boy for dating

Let's say you don't know him, but you want to take the first step towards building friendships.

1. First of all, get more information about the boy, you can visit his profile on the network, see what he does, what hobbies he prefers. Thus, you will receive 2 benefits: you will learn about his preferences and at the same time decide for yourself whether you really want to communicate with him.
2. Write him a traditional greeting and ask some question related to his interests. For example, he likes to collect paper models, ask where you can find diagrams or what he uses for gluing. Remember, the boy will gladly share what he knows well and is part of his hobbies.
3. It is important that you also be interested in the topic of the conversation, because insincerity will immediately be felt, even at a great distance during virtual communication.
4. Try to gradually move to more personal themes, for example, how he likes to spend time, what else he is interested in in life, how he solves problems with his studies, etc.
5. During the conversation, you can write that he is an interesting conversationalist, cheerful, friendly. In general, boys (like girls) love compliments, just remember that they should be as natural as possible, otherwise they will look like rough flattery, and this will not please a guy who wants to build anything, even just friendly relations.

What not to write about

1. If a guy really cares about talking to you, he will quickly pick up the idea of ​​a conversation and will also ask you questions. This is where you need to be careful. Do not immediately tell everything about yourself, remain a mystery for some time.
2. It is undesirable to ask the boy directly who he likes, which girls he prefers. It’s better to ask how he feels about friendship with girls, if he has girl friends, what he appreciates in such a relationship.
3. You also don’t need to immediately admit that you really like the boy, you can scare him away, since he is unlikely to expect such frankness after a short acquaintance.
4. Don't ask him to introduce you to friends. Many boys are embarrassed about their communication with girls, so they do not share this fact with their company. Wait until your relationship becomes closer and you become for him significant person who he is afraid of losing.

The main thing is to be confident in yourself, and then it will be easy for you to communicate even with the guy you like very much.

It's easy to guess what to write. But we will tell you not to rack your brains. First you need to start a virtual conversation. Start it banal. With a simple hello. Put a smiley face after the friendly word. He will surely charge the guy with positive and set him on the necessary wave!

The guy will answer as soon as he's free. Most likely, his answer will contain a greeting and the question “how are you doing?” or similar to it. Answer in detail and honestly. If you are in a bad mood or have problems, then do not write about it.

Write to the guy about everything that he would be interested in reading about. Find out everything you can about his hobby. Many tips are "hidden" in social networks, as people often leave their thoughts, opinions, statements, stories, memories, photos, pictures in them.

Do you want to write something very personal? Don't rush it! Wait a bit! You need to get to know each other better. You need to wait for the most opportune moment to sort things out. It is possible that he will not have to wait long and the guy will take the first step. Then you will reveal to him the secret of your reciprocity.

From personal life...

I met my husband on Vkontakte. And I was the first to admit to him that I like him. I'm telling you everything from the beginning. I'll try not to miss important details.

We talked for almost a month and a half and almost around the clock. Igor "lived" in my mobile phone and in my virtual world. We rarely called each other, because we were shy, probably. But on the Internet between us there were no barriers, no barriers, no interference.

We talked about everything, joked, made fun. It was so great! We were sincerely glad that we had each other, but remained best friends. Often we joked so that you could see the whole truth ("I adore you", "I'm not jealous, but I warn you", "you are the best", "you are the best"). We hid the truth under "emoticons".

I found a young man. Everything was great with him, and I was so drawn to Igor that I went crazy! Igor was aware that I was dating someone else, but did not show that he was jealous and bored. And I thought he just didn't care.

I could not live without my beloved Igorka! I broke up with Oleg in order to remain free and continue to communicate with him. We confessed everything to each other and got married. Be bolder if you want even the slightest development of relations to occur.

What to write a guy in a mobile message?

You can write a beautiful quatrain. A joke or anecdote is perfect. I have to warn you again that you are not in a hurry to confess your sympathy for him.

Start with SMS-battle. You can chat for months. The main thing is that your communication is not in vain. It must bring some result. What will he be like? It depends on you! Not a million percent, of course, but you must act, and not sit and wait for everything to work itself out.

Guys get annoyed

Questions like: “Where have you gone?”, “Why are you not answering me for so long?”, “Who are you with now?”. No need to be too intrusive! This quality unnerves people (not just males).

Don't twist words. Do not make mistakes in the text. If you don't know the rules, you can learn them. Small mistakes are still forgivable and acceptable.

What to write to someone who has already become an ex?

Consider if you need it. Write down what is left unsaid. But don't start there. Gently ask him how he is doing. If the conversation goes well, then this is a sign that he still cares about you.

Don't pester your ex with questions. Leave your curiosity aside. Let the guy be interested in you. Write the truth, do not embellish anything. Do not refuse a meeting if he appoints one for you.

Draws on memories? No one forbids remembering the past. Try to do it delicately.

Want to write a letter to your ex but don't know what to write? You will see an example of a letter just below: “Hello! I remembered how we used to correspond, and I missed this tradition. How do you live? What has changed in your life? I really miss it, to be honest. I miss it so much that there is no longer any strength to be silent about it. Let's meet to talk about everything, looking into the eyes. Do you agree? I look forward to hearing. Answer when you can, I won't rush you." You can tweak this, of course. Save the letter as a draft so you can read it again.

Do you dream of texting a stranger you like?

Do it right now! Get his phone number first. Then find him on social media. "Punch" the email address, if possible.

Gradually build trust in him. Become a true friend to him. Do your best to make the stranger trust you. The first sign of trust is that he himself will begin to write to you. Do not ignore. Answer right away, do not hesitate with the answer for a second!

Do not be angry at his bad mood and his state of depression. Help him come to his senses when you feel that the guy is "dying." Listen, give recommendations (friendly advice).

Write to the guy that he can always count on your help. The person will be grateful to you for such words. He will say that you have the kindest heart. Just answer for what you said! Help if you promise.

What if he has another? Rejoice for him, despite your own suffering. Stay close to him, keeping friendly relations. Support him as much as you can. And then "turn off" your conscience. The fact is that the guy will leave her for you. This may not happen, but there is such a possibility!

Write gentle, affectionate and polite words to the guy. He will definitely remember messages of such content, save and re-read them repeatedly. Do you like to know about it? Now imagine how pleased your young man is with your attitude. Don't worry if it's not yours yet. Everything will be cool! You will be his girlfriend, if fate so desires!

Continuation. . .

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From time immemorial, people communicated with each other not only through personal interaction, but also in letters. It was considered the best way communicate about what is difficult to talk about in person, convey information at a distance and just make a person feel good. After all, words are forgotten, they are intangible, and letters can be stored and periodically re-read, returning to the past.

Lovers used letters as a way to communicate their feelings. Girls have always been interested in what to write to the guy they like. Twenty years ago, love notes at school or college were commonplace. The representatives of the weaker sex gradually learned to take the first steps and the question "how to write to the guy first" no longer arose. Yes, and the guys have become easier to respond to the behavior of proactive girls.

Relatively recently, such a phenomenon as social networks has entered our life and firmly established itself in it. The Internet beckons, attracts and attracts many people around the world. Through it, you can buy anything, sell it, learn a lot of new things and even fall in love, and then get married. Online dating has become commonplace, which is why girls are now worried about what to write to a guy they like on one of the social networks, and not in a letter on paper. In the virtual world, it turns out that you can find for yourself both a friend and an interlocutor and a soul mate.

The dream of all modern girls now is a successful and productive acquaintance through the Internet. And if you are lucky to find such a person on the network with whom you would like to get to know better, then you should not expect that fate will be favorable to you and he miraculously draws attention to you. It is better to take the initiative and ask yourself the question "what to write to a guy on VKontakte, classmates, Facebook, and so on."

First of all, decide what you expect from this communication: friendship, love, just unobtrusive conversations, and so on. The tactics of the "battle" will also depend on your goal. In any case, the first communication with the guy you like should begin with the presentation of yourself. Your goal is to establish contact and make him interested in communicating with you. Of course, any dialogue should eventually lead to a personal meeting, without this the whole idea of ​​seducing a man is meaningless.

Before you know what to write to the guy you like, you need to collect information about him. Fortunately, this is not so difficult to do now. You just need to carefully study all his profiles in various social networks, as well as photo albums. From them you can learn a lot of useful information about his hobbies, interests and lifestyle. In addition, you yourself need to correct your pages on social networks. Be sure to filter your photo albums for not-so-good photos. In the questionnaires, it is desirable to indicate a lot of useful and interesting information about yourself.

No need to worry too much about what to write to the guy you like, start simple. "Hi how are you?" - well suited for the first message. Guys are very unpretentious in such matters. Much more of them can be frightened by a too abstruse greeting or originality beyond measure. And you can immediately invite him to get acquainted in an unpretentious and not too official manner. You can also ask a question based on what you already know about it.

Be prepared for the fact that the person in the photo that you liked in communication will not be so attractive, smart or polite at all. In any case, you need to give the guy a chance, because his communication in the virtual world and real life can be fundamentally different. You should never deceive a guy when communicating via the Internet. After all, sooner or later you still want to meet, and then your deception can be revealed. Do not forget that all guys love to be interested in them. ask him more questions about his life, hobbies, friends or work. But you don't have to ask about ex girls, this ban applies not only in real life. Be yourself and you will succeed.

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