We are far from achieving all of our goals - and often the point is not laziness and weakness, but the inability to correctly formulate tasks and determine priorities. Self-improvement consultant Robert Sipe has published a book by Mann, Ivanov & Ferber on how to use brain science to increase productivity and focus on the practical implementation of your ideas and desires. Theories and Practices publishes a chapter from the book.

Reduce the number of goals

Write down the 5-6 most important goals you want to achieve in the next 90 days. Why exactly so many? The main thing at this stage is to reduce: the term and the number of items on the list. Why? There are five or six goals, because, as we already know, consciousness is not able to effectively cope with an excess of information. It is easy for him to focus on only a few tasks at a time. Of course, there is an appropriate time and place for the so-called creation of a dream, when you get rid of all the limitations of thinking and time and indulge in bold and crazy thoughts. This exercise is useful for expanding the horizons and possibilities of your mind, but now we will do something else. Take a calendar and determine the next milestone in about 90 days. Ideally, this is the end of the quarter, the end of the month is also suitable. If the end point comes in 80 or 100 days, that's fine; the main thing is to be close to 90. Why is this important? Because for about that amount of time, a person can be very focused on one important goal without hitting the "reset button" and still see real progress.

Not for nothing that almost all diets or training programs are designed for about 90 days. A great example is the wildly popular P90X home fitness program. "P" means "strength" (power), and "X" - "limit" (Xtreme). Basically just a marketing gimmick. But behind the number "90" there are serious scientific justifications. The program is not called P10X, because you can’t achieve great success in 10 days, but also not P300X: no one can stick to the program for so long without a break. Why do you think Wall Street attaches such importance to the quarterly financial reports of companies?

Because it is for such a period that it is possible to introduce significant changes without losing focus. In any important undertaking, much shorter than 90 days is too short to see real progress, and much longer is too long to clearly see the finish line. Study the next 90 days and write numbers from 1 to 6 on a piece of paper. You will write down the 5-6 most important goals that you want to achieve in 90 days. Now analyze all areas of your life: work, finances, physical health, mental/emotional state, family, participation in society - so that your list is comprehensive.

As you write down your most important goals for the next 90 days, recap what makes a goal effective. In the previous chapter, we discussed in detail the five essential characteristics of your goals, and here I will list them briefly again.

one . What you write down should be meaningful to you. These goals are yours and no one else's, so be sure to fix what you really want to achieve.

2. What you write down should be specific and measurable. We're talking about a 90-day program with an explicit deadline, so general phrases like "increase income," "lose weight," or "save money" are out of place. Clearly define what exactly you intend to achieve during this period. How much money to earn or save? How many pounds to lose weight? How many kilometers to run? What will be your sales (define specific numbers)? Your numbers or details are not important to me, but specificity is necessary. By neglecting this step, you will miss out on most of the opportunities this process gives you.

3 . Goals must be of the right scale: challenging, yet achievable from your point of view. Remember: you have about three months to do everything, and then you have to blow the lights out. So choose the right scale goals. In this exercise, you will have to choose between the options "a bolder target, so you have to strain" and "a more modest one, to play it safe." The choice depends on your experience and previous successes. If you are used to achieving the main thing easily or you are a little bored, then choose a more ambitious goal. If you are doing this for the first time, then you should choose a more modest goal.

four . Even if it is obvious, I will emphasize: the goals need to be fixed in writing. You are doing yourself and me a disservice if you read all this and do nothing. I didn't say "think about what you want to achieve in the next 90 days", I said "write it down". I assure you that the coordinated work of the eyes, hands and brain raises the choice and design of goals to a qualitatively new level. So, fix your goals in pen and paper, not just in your mind.

5 . You will regularly review what you are currently writing, so be honest with yourself and create goals that you will be interested in achieving. Once you've laid the groundwork, we'll develop a whole plan with the need to be accountable to ourselves and the programming elements, so keep in mind that you will interact with these goals.

Enough descriptions - it's time to work! Grab a pen and paper and write down your top 5-6 goals for the next 90-100 days. Give it as much time as you need, and then go back to reading.

Define a key goal

Now you need to determine which of these goals is key for you. You may ask, “What is a key goal?” And that's great, because you've probably never looked at your goals this way before. Your key goal is one whose serious pursuit supports most of your other goals. Looking at your short list, you will surely notice that there are connections between many goals; you may even realize that some are in competition with each other. But I have found that in almost all cases there is one of the goals, the persistent pursuit of which is likely to achieve the desired results in all areas. I don't want to over complicate things. You may already know which of your goals fits this description.

Often, when a person gets to this stage, one of the goals he has written down catches his eye and seems to scream: “Hey! Make it so that I come true! If you have already found this goal, just mark it in the list and only then continue reading. If the key target isn't immediately visible, that's okay too. I myself often had to figure out which of my goals is the key, where to focus my main efforts. You want the one that is most likely to help you reach the rest.

There are several options. Sometimes the achievement of a key goal indirectly causes the implementation of the others, almost automatically. It happens that a key goal requires the achievement of others as an intermediate step or an auxiliary tool. And sometimes a key goal can affect your life so much that you gain the strength, confidence, and energy to break down any wall you encounter. Here is an example. Recently, I began to figure out what I want to achieve in the remaining 100 days of the year, and came up with the following:

one . Personal selling.

2. Personal income.

3 . Pay the debt off.

four . Run 355 km and do 35 strength workouts.

5 . Meditate at least 50 times.

6. Take 14 days of guilt-free vacation by disconnecting from everything.

These were the most important goals. Note that they are all specific and measurable. I knew that I needed to reduce them to one and take it seriously. Strictly speaking, there is no right answer; none of them were better or worse than the others. Deciding where the main effort would bring the most return was entirely up to me. Guess which one I chose? Sales. The figure itself would not tell you anything, but I will describe my line of reasoning. By fulfilling the sales plan, I would thereby receive income and ensure the repayment of the debt. Achieving my goals would also allow me to find time for vacations. And what is the connection with training and meditation? I knew that maintaining physical, mental and spiritual health would give me the energy I needed. So all these goals are interconnected.

If the main efforts are directed to a key goal, the subconscious mind actually takes on all these goals and the likelihood of achieving them increases significantly. Do you understand? Your next step is to do this with your goals: determine which one is the key to the rest. If you haven't selected it yet, then choose slowly. Make sure you are confident in your key goal before moving on.

Confirm the reason

Now that you have one goal to focus on, it's time to answer the most important question: why? Why is it important for you to achieve it? Intuition may provide the answer. Sometimes the stars align in such a way that it dawns on you. You say to yourself: “I don’t need unnecessary reasoning. I have never felt such enthusiasm, I am eager to fight!” If so, great! Just write down your thoughts as a guide. If insight does not occur, try to stimulate your thinking with questions such as:

Why do I want to achieve this?

What will give me the achievement of this goal?

How will I feel when I realize this goal? Self confidence? Delight? Appeasement? Inspiration? Strength?

How will achieving this goal help me become a better or stronger person? What do I need to grow into?

What else can I do with this result?

There are no wrong answers to the “why” question, and the more you have, the better.

Visualize Goals

To focus and "tune" your mind, you need to visualize goals. So far, all your activities have been related to making plans. Most don't even get to this stage when thinking about their goals, so you're already in the lead. But there is still a lot you can do to speed up the process. Your subconscious mind is billions of times more powerful than your conscious mind. It thinks and works in many different ways. As we have said, one important key to the subconscious mind is to understand that it operates with images. The conscious mind manages coherent, linear thoughts that go one after another (which even sound like sentences in your mind), while the subconscious mind, in fact, just sees the pictures and stubbornly strives for them.

Take advantage of this: let your brain have something to look at! Give him images to work with. Sometimes I suggest that clients store images in a notebook or folder. Sometimes - create a dream board and hang it in the workplace to see all the images at once. Many of my clients place images of their goals on cards along with affirmations. There are many ways to visualize your goals. Experiment and choose what suits you best.

Create supporting rituals

You don't have to sing hymns or sacrifice a lamb. To create a ritual, you will consciously build some kind of automatic behavior that will become a binding to your goals. This is not just a trick I made up. Here are three books that have convincingly proved its benefits to me:

The first two books helped me understand the science behind habits, and the third helped me put together a step-by-step program that is now bringing great benefits to me and my clients. Do you know that most of your thoughts have become a habit? Dr. Deepak Chopra states that over 99% of the thoughts we have today are repeats of yesterday, and 99% of tomorrow will be repeats of today. Actions are determined by thoughts, and many of them - at work, in relation to health, finances - are performed by force of habit. They are brought to automatism. Remember what you do in the morning from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to work: how often does one morning look like another? You put your feet on the floor, get up unsteadily, brush your teeth, take a shower, drink coffee, get dressed, have breakfast (maybe), drink coffee again, check email, drink coffee again, wake up the children, make them breakfast, drink coffee again and leave.

Track your morning activities for several days, and you may be surprised how similar one day is to another. So, you already have automatic behaviors; I advise you to perform them consciously for a while, and then replace them with new ones. There are two periods during the day when this will need to be done.

The first is as soon as you wake up in the morning. The first hour - or rather, the first few minutes - is a very good time to program your brain for success. At this time, it passes from sleep to wakefulness, and its waves are configured in such a way that your subconscious mind is exceptionally receptive to the "thought seeds" that you sow. Have you noticed how the first minutes after waking up can set the tone for the whole day? Have you ever gotten up on the wrong foot? Pay attention, and you'll begin to see practical connections between an effective morning start and your results throughout the day.

Most people miss this opportunity: in the morning we are either nervous for various reasons, or we move in a fog, not fully understanding what is happening. And many successful people purposefully use the start of the day to set their minds to focus on their dreams and goals.

The second time you need to program yourself is in the last few minutes of your day. They are important for much the same reasons as the first hour of being awake: it is a transitional phase for the brain. During last hour Before going to sleep, find an opportunity to visualize your goals and some affirmations one more time, and then express your gratitude for all the good things that happened during the day.

Felix Demin

Entrepreneur, traveler, surfer.

Many people ask how I manage to manage several business projects in different countries(while living in Bali), traveling the world (54 countries), doing 39 workouts per month (surfing and Workout), 25 meditations, reading 14 books, mastering 25 English classes, introducing two new habits, studying 110 articles and self-education video, learn one new skill, while making enough time for relationships and be happy every day.

I believe that sharing valuable knowledge is important and necessary, and I give you the most valuable of my achievements.

The purpose of this article is to be useful to you and make life better. The one who learns something useful and applies it in his life will become the best version of himself.

Sharing what I came up with this moment by compiling other systems and ideas, experimenting and working on building your own system over the years.

Goal setting

This is how my study time was divided of English language in February:

1. New words entered through the site - 2 650. Learn 300 new words.

2. Vocabulary- 8,746 words.

3. Hours on site - 41 hours.

4. TED - 40 videos (40 + 2 in Russian).

5. Read at least one book: Eliezer Yudkowsky. New book: A Girl Corrupted by the Internet is the Summoned Hero? (4 hours 20 minutes).

6. Watch a video from what I usually watch: at least 8 hours in English.

7. Movies and series:

The Revenant - 2 hours 30 minutes;
Elementary (season 4, episodes 10–12) - 120 minutes;
Titanic - 90 minutes; 90 minutes not watched yet;
Deadpool - 1 hour 50 minutes;
Zootopia - 1 hour 45 minutes;
Gods of Egypt - 2 hours 7 minutes;
Walking Dead (season 6, episode 11) - 40 minutes.

Total: 12 hours 22 minutes.

8. Speaking practice with foreigners: 21 hours 30 minutes.

9. University of California at San Diego. Learning How to Learn: Powerful Mental Tools to Help You Master Tough Subjects (3 hours 10 minutes).

Total for the month: 82 hours 22 minutes.

I also add one-time tasks to this folder. Usually these are articles, reviews, TED videos, useful and other materials related to self-development.

Google Chrome has a handy extension for Wunderlist. You can quickly create a task. It will go to the right folder with the name of the web page and a link to it. This way you can save all valuable articles and materials and take into account the time spent on them per month.

On average, I spend 10 minutes on such a task. At the end of the month, I open completed tasks in the “Self-development” folder and count how many there are, refreshing my memory of everything that turned out to be useful for me during this month.

Folder "Skills"

I made a list of skills that I want to have by the end of the year, and distributed them by month. To consolidate old skills, they have a cyclical task with a repetition once a month.

I spend at least 120 hours on business development. At the end of the month, I analyze what gives the highest ROI. I also consider what ideas I have implemented, what results they have, what can be removed from the routine and what kind of training is most effective.

For each day, I write a report in this format:

H: 1 hour. Phoned Michael to automate the calculations.
A: 1 hour. I started reading a book on scripts from a scriptologist recommended by Asimov, thinking and writing problems.

There are three types of tasks:

T - turnover - repetitive tasks, the implementation of which I strive to minimize.
H - new and useful tasks that are associated with the development of the company, the launch of new projects, the development and creation of something new.
Oh, learning. This includes articles, trainings, books on business. I always try to learn something new and useful, which I immediately implement in business and life.

At the end of the month, I sum up the time and various types of tasks. I analyze what is done and what is not, adjust the plan and draw up for the next month.

Habits Folder

I usually choose 2-3 good habits for a month and implement them. I write notes about how the process goes. If it doesn’t work, then I write down the reasons, I exclude some habits.

Every month I check the entire list of already acquired habits and their observance. If I do not comply with them, then I analyze and decide what to do with it.

Relationships folder

All the people who are significant to me fall into this folder: with whom I will communicate, regardless of where I am, to whom I will always be happy.

In "New Acquaintances" - a description of the key moments of meetings, ideas, places with people with whom I met and talked for the first time.

"Not regular" are meetings with people who did not make the list with a separate name.

I write all this to understand the development of my relationship.

diaries

I write diaries for awareness and tracking how I change over the years, to save moments of my life, to practice formulating thoughts in writing, which, in my opinion, is useful for many reasons.

I write every day, but in different diaries in different ways. Now I have about 9 diaries for specific purposes:

Personal diary.
Gratitude Diary.
relationship diaries.
Diary of happiness.
Truth Diary.
Health diary.
Surfer's diary.
Diary of mindfulness and meditation.
Diary of training.

Thanks to the diaries, I was able to analyze the last years and did not find a single day when I was in a bad mood. For myself, I derived the formula of happiness from the way of life, habits. By following it, I manage to be happy.

It is very important for me to live in a high. What I do gives me incredible pleasure. Seeing every day how I develop, how every day I get closer to the mission of my life - all this makes me truly happy.

Life is like a boat on a river. Of course, you will sail on it, but you can take oars, a map and a compass in your hands to steer the boat. Or you can just watch where the river of life takes you.

When setting personal goals important to sum up where we are. This applies to all areas of life.

Perhaps, in terms of finances, you do not have problems, but when you achieve material well-being, your personal life suffered. Or family relationships are well-established and predictable, but romance has not been observed in them for a long time.

The main source of goals for the year

If this is your first experience, and it is difficult for you to assess your strengths, I recommend choose easier targets. Better you complete them in a month, then make a new list for the remaining year. Each new plan will be more thoughtful, and with well-chosen goals.

To make a list of goals, I recommend doing the exercise 100 desires, choose 5-10 desires from them. It is better to set not final goals, but a series of intermediate simple and achievable goals. Instead of "Create your own business" - set goals: "Choose a niche for business", "Create a website", "Write 10 articles", "Learn SEO".

It is very important that the first attempts to live with the prescribed goals are successful. Once again, I highly recommend that you start with a simple plan, even a list of tasks.

To warm up your imagination and memory, study the examples below - lists of goals for the year by area of \u200b\u200blife. Further study the lists: 20 goals, 25 goals, 50 goals and 100 goals. Make a list of goals that will change you in a year.

Complete a related course.
Explore career options.
Read 12 books on work.
Transition to management through coaching.
Get a promotion at work.
Agree with management on additional area of responsibility.
perform more challenging tasks for work.
Change job.
Determine the range of professions for a new career.
Organize your own enterprise, or choose a direction to search for free niches.

10 life goals for health

Our development. Determine your current state of health.
Eliminate 10 unhealthy foods from your diet in a year.
Get a health consultation.
Do 12 massages.
Consultation with an osteopath.
Try 5 new types of massage.
Find a sport to exercise regularly 2-3 times a week.
Starve one day.
Pass unconventional wellness practice.
Take courses in meditation and relaxation.

Consult with a stylist, make purchases with him.
Assess the profitability of buying real estate in your city.
Do not make emotional purchases for a month, buy in 3-10 days.
Buy a MacBook and/or iPhone.
Buy a toy from childhood memories.
Make a "soulful" gift to a friend.
Buy a toy for your adult self.
Buy a cup, draw a smiley on it and give it to a colleague.
Take a weekend tour.
Wear new clothes in the store after purchase.

Read Thinking Fast and Slow.
Study the material, not accepted by you point of view.
Learn to give a presentation.
Set a personal record for the books you read.
Improve writing skills: write 5 articles.
Improve your understanding of statistics: read The Black Swan.
Learn to draw emoticons by hand.
Raise the level of foreign language proficiency.
Learn to drive a scooter.
Get into the habit of personal time management.

Prepare breakfast for lovers.
Relieve the need to control everything.
Read the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
Respect your partner more.
Have a fun and romantic picnic.
Listen to the course "Natural childbirth".
Gift a companion an ornament self made.
Track when you are not listening carefully.
Have a family dinner by candlelight.
Speak words of support and care more often.

Spend two weeks in Thailand.
To ski.
Drink coffee at the best coffee shop in town.
Go on a kayaking trip with an overnight stay.
Rafting on a river raft.
Climb the volcano.
Work a week remotely while traveling.
Drive a car to the sea.
Try hitchhiking.
Learn to sail a sailboat.

10 Leisure and Entertainment Goals

Make a list of 100 wishes.
Pass the quest room.
Jump on jumpers.
Fly in a plane with aerobatics.
Ride a quad bike.
Climb in the rope park.
Ride a zipline.
Jump on a trampoline.
Hit a punching bag.
Host a board game night.

10 financial goals for 2020

Increase income by 25%.
Read Rich Dad Poor Dad.
Learn to evaluate offers with the words “earn money, get rich quick”, what is the divorce.
Make a list of 200 material goals.
Create or increase passive income.
Play a board game Cash flow».
Learn not to lend.
Be proactive in philanthropy. Ignore beggars.
Learn the basics of marketing.
Start a hobby with financial potential.

Make a list of 10 goals for each area of your life .

We publish again an article that has become one of the most popular in 2016. We all set goals wrong. For years. Decades. Suddenly? Daniella Laporte, author of Live with Feeling, has studied the process of goal setting inside and out and created a new goal setting methodology. You'll never guess what it's like (hint: it's the other way around). Thousands of people around the world are already happy. Join the society of burning eyes and flaming hearts and you! New Year is the time to change your life.

How do we usually set goals? We come up with what we would like to have or what we want to achieve, and then we write it down in a notebook. As a rule, this happens on Mondays, on a birthday or New Year. Once - and we decide to live differently. Everyone chooses their own way of planning: someone draws a table with the columns "work", "finance", "hobbies" and enters goals there, someone makes a numbered list, someone simply lists their desires - "I want to see London." All these methods have something in common: first, we describe our desires in detail (or not so much - who knows how), and then we look for ways to achieve them. In addition, the list of "dreams" consists of items, many of which do not inspire enthusiasm. I need to sign up for a Spanish course, I need to train five times a week, I need to get a promotion...

We must, we must, we must ... Not very inspiring. Nowhere is it said about how we will feel.

How to make sure that satisfaction is brought not only by the result, but also by the road to it?

How to Experience Joy Every Day: Setting Goals Differently

Danielle Laporte offers a radically different approach. Using it, you can not only praise yourself for your willpower sometime later, in the future, but right now you can enjoy the path to your dream. Tomorrow. Or even today. You just need to become a little extravagant, not like everyone else, and turn the goal-setting on its head. How to do it? Here is the prescription.

First decide how you want to feel (happy, calm, determined, in harmony - in this article you will find big list desired feelings), and then plan days, weeks and months, based on your invented good state. It turns out that you select a goal that fits the feelings that you have planned for yourself. Suppose, in order to feel joy every day, it is vital for you to do charity work - visit children in a shelter, be a volunteer and take care of homeless animals, a neighbor enjoys playing the flute, and a colleague - spreading rumors (yes, yes, this happens, it’s worth it acknowledge).

All people are different. It may happen that you do not need a three-room apartment at all, which you are going to take on a mortgage and then spend another 30 years to pay back the money. Maybe a house 10 minutes drive from the city is enough for you - and you will be no less happy person. The point is to listen carefully to yourself, and not to chase the goals that society imposes. In fact, we are not striving for any specific goal, but for the feelings that will arise when it is achieved: sincere joy, genuine self-pride, peaceful calmness, a sense of self-worth, unshakable self-confidence. That's what people want. This is what we are all heading towards, albeit unconsciously.

If you can do something or dream about it, do it.

Goals in reverse? Excellent!

Why should you try this way of setting goals? There are several reasons. It is effective (thousands of people have already tried this method on themselves), spiritually positive (you will gain more than you lose) and opens the way to true desires.

What if you were unhappy for so many years because you were going in the wrong direction?

We built a career as a top manager, put a lot of effort, nerves and time into it, spent weekends at work, and you don’t remember when you had a vacation, but in fact you would like to become a freelance designer: freedom of creativity, flexible schedule and a lot of time to personal creative projects - this is exactly what you want if you stop closing your eyes, afraid of change.

Another fat plus of “crazy goal-setting” is protection from disruptions on the way to a dream. Why do you think so many people don't reach their goals? That's right: they don't want it enough (but they think it's very, very). That is why there are always excuses and insurmountable obstacles. It's just that the goal was not set by the person himself - this is not something from which something inside begins to shrink and tremble excitedly. It is a goal imposed by other people. Alien dreams. Not yours.

Wish card

To find out what you really crave, the Desire Map will help. Spend a couple of evenings digging into yourself. The basis of this card is the question "How do you want to feel?". it main question, to which you need to find the answer in order to start the flywheel of change for the better. The starting point is the sensations, feelings, mood that you should have in the future. Someone wants to become harmonious and free, and someone wants to be productive and successful. The meaning of the technique is to find sift sand and find gold - innermost desires.

Danielle Laporte has developed a simple instruction that will help you identify the desired feelings, and based on them determine your goals in life. It will not take much time to get to the depths of the subconscious, but you will discover your true desires.

You can create a Wish Map once or twice a year. So the New Year is the time for such adventures.

The best part is that, knowing about your desired feelings, you can do simple and natural things every day, do small actions that correspond to these feelings. These simple (but regular - this is important!) actions will help you quickly create a good mood and get closer to your goal step by step.

Searching for our true desires

In order to start changes in life, you first need to decide what goes wrong, what does not work, does not give the expected. Realistically evaluate the negative aspects of your life, decide on priorities and try to understand what you are striving for - what you love the most.

The Dalai Lama once said: "The meaning of life is to find happiness." And it is even more pleasant not when this is a goal that you achieve at the end of your life, but you enjoy a mosaic of happy moments every day and every hour. Of course, it is impossible to rejoice all the time, but to make sure that the positive outweighs the negative is quite within the power of every person.

So, here's what you need to do to find out what your desires are singing about. This is not just an exercise, but an instruction for those who want to tune their hearts to the right wave and open their minds. Go!

1. Prepare to work on yourself
Buy a notebook or notebook with a nice cover. Just choose not at random, but what you really like, so that it would be nice to pick it up and start working. This will be your personal Wish Map. Take a look at your calendar and decide when to start: you can do everything at once, for example, on Saturday evening, or you can carry the Wish Card with you in your purse and fill it out when you have time - during a break at the office, on your way home, in line at barbershop. In principle, 5-7 minutes are enough to fix the thought. But we would recommend setting aside one or two evenings to do this work right away, without delay. Now write down five areas of life: finances and work, lifestyle and hobbies, relationships and society, health of the soul and body, creativity and self-development. You can add your options.

2. Be a brave archaeologist, or we excavate the soul
The first serious step, which will require you to emotional effort, is a mini-program of self-knowledge. You will probably have to sweat a lot. But you will learn a lot about yourself. Answer the questions from the list below: this will help you understand what you like and what you don't particularly like.

I need to allow myself to be...
What do I do most easily and naturally?
- Apart from time and money, I really want to have ...
What do I do regularly that I don't really want to do?
I am truly happy when...
- I value…
- What depresses me and drives me into melancholy ...
- What inspires me and inspires me ...
I am completely happy when...
I am totally against...
What do I know for sure...

3. Describe yourself in the desired state of mind and choose the right words
Think about how you would like to feel in each area of your life. Write, dream, improvise! Anything is good: do not stop the stream of consciousness - let the thoughts flow like a river, you will still have time to figure out what's what. Rave? We leave. Replays? Let them be. Be abstract or concrete. Do you want to feel sexy? What about red feeling? How do you like the electric feeling? Or ten options for certainty? Don't criticize yourself, just write.

Now take an explanatory dictionary and open the notebook on the page with the areas of life that you wrote down in the first paragraph. Find additional (to the ones you just made up) words and phrases that describe how you want to feel tomorrow, in a month and in a year. You can also use a dictionary of synonyms, not forgetting to look into the explanatory one along the way, in order to know exactly what meaning each word carries. By the way, when compiling a list of suitable words, you can focus both on the definition from the dictionary and on your own intuitive understanding. Dictionary definitions can even be corrected based on your own experience. The trick is that there is no right or wrong approach to self-knowledge. There is only your own path.

4. Throw away the excess
Surely you have an impressive list of words for every area of life. The next step is "natural selection". Choose only those desired feelings that evoke the most emotional response in you. It's like a bell is ringing inside. Did something "buzz"? There is! This is the one you are looking for! Just ask yourself which words make you feel good and free, inspire you, which ones bring goodness, comfort, joy and energy. But with words and phrases that put pressure on you, plunge you into despondency and cause internal resistance, you should say goodbye without regret.

Another way: specification. Many people want to feel happy and successful, but it is important to decide what exactly you are striving for. Find your personal meaning for the word, and then decide whether you leave it or not. You can say each word aloud to better understand whether it suits you or not.

As a rule, 3-5 feelings are obtained. These are your deepest desires. They are the whole point. Write them out on a separate page and set aside the Wish Card for a couple of days - let it brew.

5. Come up with a plan
Now is the time to act. Think about what actions and thoughts will lead you to the desired state in the future - do this as many times as you have identified areas of life. Make a list of easy daily activities that will get you closer to your goal. You can set larger goals, but be sure to break it down into its component parts.

And it's better if you take a calendar and plan your actions for 3-4 months in advance. So, in one or two evenings you will not outline a path for yourself, winding and going nowhere, but build a highway that leads straight to your dream without turning. Well, to put all these new affairs and rituals into a regular schedule, use some familiar day planning system. Then you won't forget anything.

A wish card is a journey into your inner world. Be careful and tread carefully. Then you will see the light ahead.

25 inspiring goals

We have compiled a list of 25 goals that you can set for yourself in the New Year. And the Map of Desires will help to achieve them. Choose one or more targets and try. Who knows what will come of it! Rest assured that nothing is wrong.

1. Do what you love: make a business out of a hobby.
2. Travel the world and see five new countries.
3. Speak at a cool conference.
4. Overcome any of your fears: for example, overcome the fear of heights and skydive.
5. Unleash your talents for drawing/writing/acting.
6. Read ten life-changing books.
7. Become a donor/volunteer.
8. Spend every weekend with your family.
9. Repair a bad relationship with a loved one.
10. Open a shelter for homeless animals.
11. Get a degree.
12. Invent something useful.
13. Change someone's life forever.
14. Compose a song.
15. Climb Everest.
16 Swim with dolphins.
17. Learn a foreign language to move to your dream country.
18. Go to healthy eating and bring yourself into the shape that you have dreamed of for many years.
19. Get rid of debt for good.
20. Master the snowboard / surfboard.
21. Write a script for a movie.
22. Find your dream job.
23. Think positively and get rid of anxiety, depression, longing.
24. Get rid of energy-sucking things, deeds and people.
25. See the northern lights.

You can really achieve great goals and fulfill dreams that haunt you at night, wake you up early and distract you from everyday affairs, pulling at the hem and shouting in your ear: “Hurry, it’s not too late. Wake up! We need to hurry!"

Take a look at your life in a new way. You can really do what others have done.

And finally - the words of essayist and philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson (quote from the book "The goal seems unattainable until it is reached"): "When a determined young man approaches a big pugnacious
the world and bravely grabs his beard, he is surprised to find that the beard was left in his hand - after all, it was tied only to scare away too timid adventurers.

Be bold! Dream, read books that can change your life, go on adventures and, finally, do it. Do your best to achieve the impossible. MYTH believes in you. And the unicorn too 🙂

Hello friends!

Why make a list of 100 goals?

Usually, each of us has many different desires, some of them are smaller, while others, on the contrary, are large-scale and large. And we constantly keep all these desires in our head. Having made a list of our goals, we can unload our head.
Having your list of goals, you can see what you should be working on during the year.
You will be able to prioritize and choose from the entire list of goals those that should be worked on first.
Through your list of goals, you are constantly evolving. After all, you don’t make it easy like that, but you make a promise to yourself that you will implement at least half of them next year. But at least that's how I do it.
You will realize that it turns out that you do not need much to be completely happy and most of your goals are not so difficult to achieve.
By writing out your goals, you endow them with additional power. I don’t know why, but I noticed that the goals that are written down on paper are realized faster and easier.

I think these reasons are enough to take a notebook, notebook or a regular sheet of paper and start compiling a list of your goals for the year.

How to write goals?

1. Break down all goals into specific categories:

business or work. Here I write goals related only to my business, for example, promote a certain site to 5,000 visitors per day, gain 10,000 subscribers, and so on.
Money. Goals related only to money are recorded in this category, for example, to earn $1,000 on such and such a project, to have such and such a total income, to save $300 per month in a bank account, etc.
Personal life, relationships. In this category, you write down goals related only to your personal life, such as getting married or getting married, having a baby, having a romantic evening for your loved one every month, and so on.
the beauty. Goals are written here to improve your appearance e.g. visit twice a week gym and make yourself a sporty fit figure, visit a beautician once a month, seek the services of a stylist and update your wardrobe and so on.
Health. There may be the following goals: do exercises for the eyes every day and improve vision to one, eat right, treat your teeth, and so on.
Travel and interesting places. Here, write down which countries you want to visit next year and which places to visit, for example, fly to Bali, visit Disneyland in Paris, the aquarium in Bangkok, and more.
Vivid emotions, new experience. In this category, you write down something new that you would like to try that will give you vivid emotions, such as diving, skydiving, flying in a hot air balloon, swimming with dolphins, trying exotic fruits, etc.
Skills. Here you write down what you want to teach next year, for example, understand spoken English, edit videos, cook food, get driver license, set up an advertising company Yandex direct and so on.
Things. In this category, you write down everything that you want to buy yourself, for example, a camera, a car, an apartment, a fur coat, a bag, and so on.
environment, dating. Here you write down what kind of people you want to communicate with, who to meet, for example, surround yourself with people who have their own business, meet a specific person, and so on.
Charity. Here you write down things you want to do for other people, such as donating a certain amount of money to the church each month, donating your toys to an orphanage, teaching your sister how to skate, and so on.

I believe that by dividing the list of goals into categories, you will develop more harmoniously and it is much easier to create 100 goals.

2. Write specific goals. If you set a goal: "Increase income", then this is an incomprehensible goal. It is important to be specific. For example, earn $ 2,000 in six months or double your income in a year. Everything should be measurable so that at the end of the year you can understand whether you have achieved this goal or not.

3. The goal must be achievable. That is, you understand that you can achieve it within a year, but you don’t need to belittle your goals either. The goal should be stressful, you may not yet understand how to achieve it, but it should not be some sky-high. For example, if you earn $1,000 a month, then you don't need to set goals: buy an island in the Indian Ocean, a plane, or a villa in Hawaii.

4. The goal must be positive. That is, to be without the “not” particle. There is no need to set goals such as not eating at night, not being late for work, and others. It is better to replace them with such as following the correct diet, being punctual.

5. This is an optional item. But, for example, I always write down my goals in the present tense. Not “Make $3,000 in six months,” but “I’m making $3,000 in six months,” not “Fly to Singapore in December 2017,” but “I’m flying to Singapore in December 2017.” I like it that way.

My experience

It always seemed to me that writing 100 goals is easy. And thanks to the fact that I broke down the goals into categories, I wrote 80 goals pretty quickly. And after that, my goals ended. The last 20 goals were difficult for me. I went through all the categories again, and mostly the last goals - these were different purchases: to buy a dress, a bag, shoes, and so on.

What to do next?

Of course, it’s not enough to just write goals and put your list on a shelf. It is important to purposefully help your goals to be realized. I recommend picking your most important goals from your list and starting working on them. I understand that there are goals that may seem quite difficult to you, which you do not yet know how to implement, where to start and how to approach them. In this case, I can advise you to use visualization, to imagine that your goal has already been realized. I myself often start with this, and then gradually the universe begins to throw up opportunities, the necessary people and knowledge appear. I don't know how it works, but I know exactly what works, no matter who tells me what. How I use visualization I told in a separate article.

Video

Write in the comments if you have made your list of 100 goals for New Year or maybe you decided to do so after watching my video, I'd be interested to know. If you have any questions about setting goals, then also write in the comments.

Good luck, friends!

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